We see it everywhere. Instagram, blog posts, articles, books, and from our coaches and mentors all telling us that we need to put ourselves first in order to be able to tend to others, that we can’t pour from an empty cup. Yet women find it so incredibly hard to put that knowledge into practice. To stop for a second. To tune in to our bodies. To feel. To be. To say no.
I promise you, though, no matter how many times you hear it and how many times you may overlook it because ‘you already know,’ it really is vital and necessary - even if you’re going to throw your laptop out the window if you see one more post about it.
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If you want to grow that business of yours, if you want to build the life of your dreams, if you want to make the money to make it all possible, you’re going to need to start to look after yourself, and right this very second. No more putting it off.
I know you know this. I know I know this. But it can still be a huge challenge to switch off from doing all the things and focus on you - even for a short time.
Think of it as a gift. Twenty blissful minutes of simply ‘being.’ Think what that could do for you? And by that I mean no emails, no phone, no mental to-do list scrolling, no laundry folding, no errands running. Just your gorgeous self, your breath, and something lovely and nourishing you can mindfully enjoy - whether that’s a delicious herbal tea, a book, or a piece of chocolate.
Now imagine if you took that time for yourself every day. That’s right. Every. Single. Day. What do you think could happen for you? What would shift in your energy, mind, body?
I’ve got some precious tips for you. Think of them as a reminder that it doesn’t take much time to treat yourself, yet the benefits cannot be measured. they don’t need a lot of time The catch is, you’re the only person who can implement those and make the conscious decision to put yourself first.
It’s time for you to have some serious me-time, and to introduce to your life a daily (yet quick!) self-care routine. Here are six proven methods to help you establish a lovely and nourishing self-care bubble in less than 20 minutes a day:
1. Remember to put yourself first
We’ve all heard the ‘oxygen mask first’ analogy. That’s because it’s true. We can’t help others without helping ourselves first. Yet we tend to forget the fact that WE are our most important asset, don’t we?? Being overwhelmed, unwell, or worse, doesn’t serve anybody. Least of all yourself, your family or your business. Look after yourself, for everyone’s sake, but for your sake first.
Breathing may seem obvious, but it’s one of the easiest and most reliable ways to recenter, return to calm, quiet the mind, and just take a breather. Pun intended! We ALL need to take a break and practice what I call the ‘5 minutes of Zen.’ Sit comfortably somewhere alone (this is really important, nobody should disturb you, even if you have to sit on the toilet), close your eyes, and breathe deeply and intentionally.
3. Take a walk
Whenever I feel stuck or down or both, my go-to is to take a long walk in the park. The movement, fresh air, and change of scenery has the power to shift your energy and bring a fresh perspective. It’s practically a guarantee to get the creativity flowing again. Taking a walk is part of my morning routine and sets me up for the day, and I couldn’t recommend it enough.
4. Start each day by doing something just for you - BEFORE you do anything for anyone else. Full stop
Whether that’s going for a walk, having a bath, or journaling, starting the day by focusing on you - and just you - sends the universe, and yourself, a powerful message: You are worthy, you are a priority, and you matter. This is your opportunity to walk-the-talk of being your number one priority and truly demonstrate your commitment to yourself.
5. Say No
One of my favourite topics of conversation with fellow women entrepreneurs, and a daily personal battle of mine, is talking all things boundaries. I talk about it all the time because I’ve learned this the hard way. Without boundaries there can be no self-care. Learn to say no to people’s demands on your time and energy when appropriate (and take a look at what you currently deem ‘appropriate’ while you’re at it) to preserve the space to do what you love most and work towards your dreams.
6. Leverage the power of plants
There are plenty of fabulous plants and herbs that can support your self-care while relieving feelings of stress and anxiety. Put a drop or two of lavender essential oil on the inside of your wrists or have a whiff of dried lavender for an immediate feeling of relief and relaxation. Sip on a cup of calming and relaxing infusion, while gazing out a window, and breathing deeply and intentionally.
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Try any or all of these quick and easy self-prioritisation tips to infuse calm into your day. And remember, self-care leads to self-love, and that leads to a better world.
Amandine Ayala is a Tea Alchemist and Intuitive Business Coach for purpose-driven business owners and change-makers. Combining herbal magic and her intuitive business genius, she'll help you elevate your client experience with an infusion of luxurious botanicals, so that your brand and events stand out and sell out.Join her online community and receive exclusive content, invitations to her secret tea ceremonies, and early access to new products: bloemetmoi.com/join
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